when is the best time to potty train your daughter?
For a lot of parents, watching their little ones grow into an adult can be bittersweet. There are even a few times, you say you do not want them to grow up. Changing diapers is definitely not one of those times. But,as much as you’ll want to be free from changing diapers, it does not pay to be in haste about it. Experts say when a child that isn’t ready emotionally and physically get rushed into potty training, the process takes way longer than usual and leads to frustration on all parties involved.
It is tricky to put an age to when a child should be ready to be potty trained as not all children are ready at the same exact time, but some children have been known to be fully potty trained by their second birthday. It is worthy to note that girls have been found to be potty trained faster than boys as they are not as easily distracted as boys, so, relax and enjoy the process.
Time, patience(from you),and a certain amount of cooperation and motivation from your daughter are some of the requirements for a successful potty training, with the main one being your daughter’s readiness(even physically) to be trained. There is no point starting too soon if your daughter isn’t ready, it’ll only lead to frustration on all parties involved and probably take longer to achieve. So, before you begin, make sure all “i’s” are dotted and “t’s” crossed.
Once you’ve determined that your daughter is ready, focus on timing. If there are any new changes taking place in her life at that particular moment,(such as the birth of a younger one, starting school, moving to a new house, e.t.c) potty training might get difficult. Wait until she becomes open to the idea of trying something new and then start the training.
How to train your daughter
First step is to let her watch both parents and learn, since that’s one of the ways toddlers learn(by imitation). she may get a little bit confused to see mommy and Mommy use the toilet differently, so you have to explain to her the basics of how boys and girls use the bathroom. Let her know how moms and their daughters sit down to pee and poo. Do not forget to mention the name of that particular body part when teaching her. Let her know exactly what it is called, just as any other body part. This makes her realize that there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
The next thing will be to make your daughter understand that the potty is her own. You can get a name sticker and ask her to place her name on it and then have her practice sitting on it with her clothes on. This helps her get comfortable with the idea of using a potty. Make it fun and engaging. Try singing her favourite song as she sits on it while watching you use the toilet. You can also demonstrate using any of her favourite stuffed animal. After she has had about a week of “pretend” toilet use, suggest that she tries it with her pants down. Do not pressure her. That will only make her not want to try it again and could derail the whole process.
Motivate her by going with her to pick out new under wears. Let her choose whatever kind she wants. You can peak her interest by talking about it days leading up to the actual day. Let her get excited about wearing under wears like mommy and big sister. If after buying, she doesn’t want to ditch her diaper, give her time. Let her wear the under wears over her diaper. she just may insist on wearing them alone and ditch diapers.
There is a need to set up a training schedule ahead of time to ensure that her potty training is not interrupted as a result of any changes. Set up the training for a time when you are available to see it through and if she is already enrolled in Preschool, make sure her tutors are aware also. Let them know what they can do to help her transition.
You’ll have to also decide what method will work for you. Either the back-and-forth method of switching between diapers and underpants or the method of going to underwear full time. Whatever method you choose, be prepared to clean up a few accidents. Decide on what is best for you and your daughter and give it time.
Try not to let her get distracted by other activities, and do not let her sit for too long(15 minutes is sufficient). Watching TV or playing with a toy can be a distraction.
One of the most important thing you’ll teach your daughter is to wipe properly. Explain to her that she needs to move the toilet paper from front to back, especially when she has a bowel movement, to avoid getting an infection. If she appears confused, teach her to pat the area dry after she pees. If your daughter needs to urinate frequently or feels a sudden need to go, says it hurts, complains of abdominal pain, or starts to wet herself after having established good bladder control, call her doctor and have her checked.
Set aside diaper and cloth free day. It helps her figure out when she needs to go and make sure the potty is in an accessible place. Let her sit on it at regular intervals and make it fun forsher. Be prepared for accidents as they’ll happen especially as she’ll be naked most of the time. You can decide to include an incentive when she gets all stubborn or read her favourite book if it isn’t going to be a distraction. Watch for signs that she has to go and use that clue to calmly suggest to her that it’s potty time. Put out plastic bags on areas on the floor that you wouldn’t want to get wet. Try letting her be naked for a number of times, maybe on weekends on when the family is all together. the more your child spends time out of diapers, the faster she’ll learn.
Celebrate with her whenever she gets something in the potty. Reinforce the idea that she has reached a significant milestone by rewarding her with something she’ll love. Maybe more time at the playground or a new video. As you celebrate, try not to make a big deal out of using the potty. Act like it’s normal and she’ll feel relaxed using it.
Give her time to be good at it. the more she uses it, the better she’ll be at it. Dress her in loose-fitting clothes that she can easily get out of or buy her underwears that are a size bigger. Remember to take it easy when she has accidents(as they will happen,even if she’s been using the potty for a couple of months). If you do not see any progress or if your daughter is getting too frustrated, take a breakand start after a few weeks.
Once she’s able to stay dry all day, you can start making plans to switch to nights. Wait until she’s reliably using or asking to use the potty during the day, then start checking her diapers in the mornings and after naps to see if they are dry. Nighttime training takes longer because it depends on when her body can hold the urine for an extended period of time. It can take months or years before your child is able to stay dry at night.
If she wants to sleep without diapers, let her do it. If after a few nights she still wets the bed, put her back in diapers and explain to her that her body is not quite ready for this next step. Reasuure her she’ll soon be big enough to sleep without diapers. Try limiting the amount of fluids she takes in after 5p.m and get her up for a final bathroom trip before you go to bed.
Celebrate with her once she’s been able to stay dry all night for a few weeks. Let her give out her remaining diapers to a family with younger kids.